Change your mind, change your body and 3 Tips to overcome your obstacles.
We tend to look everywhere but in the mirror when things aren’t going our way. This happens in all facets of life. The moment Eve took a bite of the apple and the Lord came to her, she blamed the serpent for deceiving her. The man then blamed Eve for her giving him a bite of the apple they were not supposed to eat. My point is this: Blame shifting has been happening since the beginning of time. It is pervasive in our culture. Athletes get caught cheating all the time, as do business executives, spouses, ect. When is the last time we heard someone famous that got caught own up to their mistakes? It rarely ever happens. We usually hear excuses, rationalizations, lies, and the placing of blame on others.
Most of us do this to ourselves. We sabotage our health and fitness by our daily putting things off, making excuses as to why we cannot do something, and blame others for how we are the way we are. We make our own truths in our heads, which are actually lies, and we avoid pursuing our goals. It’s self-preservation and being flat out lazy. You want to look a particular way? Everyone has an ideal body image. People want more energy and to feel better about themselves. Guess what it takes? 4-6 workouts a week and eating better. A lot better. Is that really Mt. Everest in your mind? Change your mind and you will change your body. Your decisions, and your mindset got you where you are today. Where you might say? Some are way out of shape and on bp meds, cholesterol meds, have type 2 diabetes or are on their way, and some have just been coasting, pursuing mediocrity. I’ve been there. I’ve slacked off and tried getting away with eating crap. Change, true change happens when we take responsibility for where we are at and take actionable steps to improve, no matter how uncomfortable in may be.
Here’s 5 Things I have learned from my past drug addiction, being a drug and alcohol counselor, personal trainer, and now a gym owner for 6 years that apply to fitness success:
- The moment you decide you are to blame for where you are at is the moment you can pursue a different lifestyle. The moment addicts stop blaming others and take ownership is often the beginning of sobriety. I did it. I stopped blaming the drugs. Nobody got me to where I am today. It ain’t that hard to do. Maybe you just need to lose that last 5lbs, maybe you want to get off your cholesterol medicine, or maybe you are 100lb overweight. It doesn’t matter. Take ownership of your bad choices and start making better ones. It is that easy. It’s an 180 degree about face.
- Put some skin in the game and have a reason as to why you are doing it. Sign a contract, pay in full, place a bet, hire a trainer, hire a nutritionist, and do whatever it takes. For many it is a matter of life and death. Do it for your family, do it for yourself, do it so you can grow up to see your grandchildren, do it to please your spouse, or just do it to feel better on a daily basis. Do it because it is the healthy thing to do.
- If you have a reservation you will take it. By this I mean, if you say to yourself: “I am going to try it out and if I don’t like it I will go somewhere else.” I could write a page of the excuses I have heard over the years. Cancel your reservations. Fitness is a lifelong pursuit, not a one stop shop, quick injection and back to what you did before. You gotta stay after it or you will be right back where you were before. I have seen it play out just as much in fitness as I have in addiction. Make a commitment to yourself. You are capable. You just need to change your mind .
- Pursue discomfort. 99% avoid it. The road less traveled is the tough road nobody wants to take. Maybe you have to wake up at 4:30 to make the 5:30am. But, that’s early and I’m not a morning person. I hear that all the time. So what, get up and start doing it and you will become a morning person. If that’s what it takes do it. Stop being so soft. You can train yourself to be tough.
- Surround yourself with winners. If you hang around losers or mediocrity there’s a good chance you will be a loser or extremely average. He who walks with the wise will be wise, but the companion of fools suffers harm (proverb). Get into a gym with people pursuing healthy eating and fitness and it will rub off on you or hang out with people that eat junk, sit on the couch and complain. The choice is yours.